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10/11/2018 7:15:58 PM
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So I've never had a girlfriend before...
Let me elaborate.
All throughout my middle school and high school years I've had a handful of girls that found me attractive, funny and charming or whatever. Although, I don't consider my self Prince Charming if you know what I mean.
The reason I'm posting this is to see if anyone can relate.
So pretty much, I have commitment issues. The sort of commitment issues that leave you really liking a girl, but scared she'll want to have kids, say she loves you, want you to meet her parents and grow old together. But the biggest fear(for me personally) of all is how to maintain a healthy/happy relationship over the years. How to make her laugh, what to say on a daily basis, how to ultimately not be a failure to her and to her family and friends.
The only kind of relationship I've been in is a no strings attached one. And a few one-night stands here and there. Which most guys are into for obvious reasons such as mine for example.
I know asking this here on OffTopic is quite... empty-headed. But does anybody here on OffTopic that's married or is in a healthy relationship willing to offer me some advice. Because I want to have kids of my own sometime in the future and I need help from OffTopic's love doctors.
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9 RepliesI have been married for almost 11 years now and we have 2 kids. Go get a drink and sit down/buckle up for this. Give up. Yup, you read that right. Do your thing and just be you always. If a girl wants more, she will let you know and more will happen. We do not control this, they do. When she finds you, understand that everything is going to be wonderful and then you will get married and it will change. Then you get the real her. Fighting is normal, it provides growth between you. So learn to communicate and not hold a grudge. Involve a marriage counselor when you need an outside mediator. DO NOT INVOLVE YOUR FAMILIES!!!! EVER!!! Take the Imago Dialogue course. It is hilarious how moronic it sounds but it works. Never buy flowers or jewelry as an apology. Buy her something sweet like chocolate or cake and a card. Kids will both ruin your lives and be the best thing to ever happen to you. There is so much more, but hit me up if you want to hear it.
