I don't know what to do. They started going out a year ago and they broke up about 4 months ago. He broke up with her. They got back together 4 days later. A little bit before that, she lost interest in him but didn't know how to break up with him, so the relationship dragged on for those 4 months. Now, she decided to break it up. She started to talk to me (about the same time they started going out) and I swear I tried my best not to get tangled but I didn't know what could happen. I've never been with a girl before in my entire life and I didn't think she actually liked me back, even after the obvious signs. I fell for it and I feel horrible because I don't know if it's my fault.
Its been about a week and a half. I talked to him about it because we really like each other, and he said it was okay at first. Then, I admitted I felt very guilty, and he said he was lying when he said it was okay. He said it hit him that he tried to keep it together after he broke up with her and they got together again, but it just wasn't the same and she ended it.
he said if I could wait a week, and I told him I would wait as long as he wants. I still feel bad. I really like her, and what I had for that one weekend was magical because I've never had it in my entire life. If I end it with her, I may be alone all over again. But if I wait and go after her, my friend may still feel bad. He's already talking to another girl and he's about to get it in, but I also feel guilty, and people at school are starting to talk about us, but that's the least of my problems.
What do I do? Should I wait about a month when my friend would be okay with it? Is it bad to get with my friend's ex? I don't want my best friend to feel bad, and he doesn't want me to be sad because he knows it's my first girl ever.
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Edited by Prototape: 5/19/2013 6:13:26 PMA friend (er, a couple of friends actually) of mine did this with an ex of mine immediately after we had broken up. Some days I was okay with it, other days it pissed me off. In general I had overreacted about the whole situation, but it ruined the friendship due to all the crazy stuff that happened. Stuff like this is damaging to friendships, if you're willing to risk that over someone you're interested in then go for it. It's not like she's his property, and she can pursue whomever she wants. But being that you're his best friend, this is going to put a lot of strain on your relationship with her. At the very least you're being up front with him.
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Bang her while staring at your friend straight in the eye.
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And now flood, I would like you to join me for a collective [i]"no"[/i]. I'll count you in. 3.. 2.. 1.. [i][b][u]NO![/b][/i][/u]
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Well, they both broke up with each other, so yeah, but you should have waited a little longer
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I want a picture, I want to judge your standards.
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Tom! Is that you?!
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Bros before hoes...
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I was friends with a married couple and we used to go out, party, double-date, dinners, movies, nights out, all sorts of things. I am now married to the woman in that formerly married couple. It's a tricky path, and there are lots of potential pitfalls and dangers. If you're really attracted to her, even have romantic feelings for her, then it may be worth it and you could end up being very happy together. But just one example of a possible "tricky situation"? How's your ego? Are you willing and able to know that she's going to have experiences with both of you, and may (consciously or unconsciously, deliberately or unintentionally) end up "comparing" the two of you? Can you deal with that? It's not an easy question to answer, and like I said, it is a tricky thing to do.
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You have to wait a lot longer than a week, or month to do that. Trust me, she's probably just going for you because she wants to make him mad. Girls have plans for everything and they should never be trusted. Even if she did genuinely like you, you have to ask if it's worth risking your friendship over. I dated my best friends ex two years after they broke up and it still wasn't OK. The time you're waiting after they broke up now is ridiculously short. Wait.
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You could talk to your bro about it. Gotta' remember that a really good friend will almost always be there no matter how bad it gets. A new girlfriend usually wont.
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Only if you for sure know your friend told you that you can date her and meant it.
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No. Never.
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You should do it.
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Date your best friend first.